It’s no secret that parenting can be tough. There are a lot of things to think about, from your child’s health and safety to their emotional wellbeing. It can be hard to know the best thing to do, and it is even harder to find the time to do it. But being a conscious parent doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming.
Conscious parenting is a style of parenting that focuses on the parent’s own inner growth and development in order to become more aware of their children’s needs. This type of parenting often leads to a more harmonious relationship with children and improved communication and problem-solving skills.
There is no “one way” to be a conscious parent, as every family is different and every child is unique, but there are techniques and behaviors parents can adopt to be more present and attuned to their child’s needs.
- Put away your phone. When you’re with your child, try to put away your phone and give them your full attention. Let them know that they are the most important thing at the moment and that you’re there for them.
- Listen more than you talk. Try to listen more than you talk, and hear what your child is saying. They may not always use words, but their actions and body language can tell you a lot about how they’re feeling. Really listen to what your children are saying without interruption or judgment. Try to see the world from their perspective
- Be patient. Parenting is not always easy, but it’s important to remain patient with your children (and yourself!) Children don’t always move at the same pace as adults. Be patient with them, and don’t try to rush them.
- Be present. One of the most important things you can do for your children is to be fully present when you are with them. Set aside distractions or chores and give them your undivided attention.
- Communicate. Talk to your children openly and honestly about whatever is on your mind, including your own fears, doubts, and worries. Encourage them to do the same with you.
- Respect their feelings. Acknowledge and validate your children’s emotions, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.
- Set boundaries. It’s important to teach your children that they have a right to say “no” to anything that makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe. At the same time, respect their privacy and give them some space to make mistakes.
- Be flexible. Don’t be afraid to change your plans to make your children happy. That doesn’t mean that your child’s preferences should always be the rule of the road but staying flexible to adapt as your child’s needs change.
- Teach them about consent. It’s never too early to start teaching your children about consent and respect for others’ personal boundaries.
- Model the behavior you want to see. If you want your children to be kind, compassionate, and respectful, be sure to model those behaviors yourself.
There are many different ways to practice conscious parenting, from being mindful in everyday interactions with your child to setting clear boundaries and expectations. The results are worth the effort as studies have shown that conscious parenting can lead to increased empathy and emotional intelligence in children and improved academic performance and overall well-being.
In the end, the most powerful element in conscious parenting is providing unconditional love and support. The most important element of conscious parenting is to remember to savor the good moments and cherish the time you have with your children. Enjoy the ride.